Avainsana-arkisto: bans

Children Who Have Limited Right to Learn


Citing European human rights law, a Laestadian family in northern Sweden have managed to overturn a decision by their daughters’ school, which had refused to allow the three girls to skip out on ”sinful” dance class during physical education (PE).

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Also  Conservative Laestadian families in Finland have opted to keep children out of school’s dance and theatre education (often also physical education , i.e. gymnastic exercises with music). The National Board of Education had assigned exemption to attend theatre visits and dance lessons, according the require of the Central Committee of Conservative Laestadian Congregations (Suomen rauhanyhdistysten keskusyhdistys ry., SRK). … Read more – Lue koko artikkeli…

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Kategoria(t): 1970-luku, 1980-luku, 2010-luku, ban of television, bans, concept of sin, elämäntapa, historia, ihmisoikeudet, in English, johtajat, kannanotot, kasvatus, kiellot, kontrollointi, kulttuurikiellot, laestadianism, lapset, lapsuus, lähihistoria, normit, norms, rauhanyhdistys, retoriikka, sin, SRK ry., synnit, taide, teatteri, televisio, televisiokielto, vallankäyttö

Hanna Pylväinen, etninen lestadiolainen New Yorkissa


Vanhoillislestadiolaisen yhteisön jättäminen merkitsee käytännössä koko entisen elämän hylkäämistä. Nimi poistetaan puhelinluettelosta. – Kirjailija Hanna Pylväinen.

Hanna Pylväinen. Kuva: Tuukka Koski, HS-NYT 7.-13.9.2012.

Hanna Pylväinen. Kuva: Tuukka Koski, HS-NYT 7.-13.9.2012.

Näin toteaa palkittu amerikkalainen esikoiskirjailija Hanna Pylväinen. Pylväinen kasvoi Detroitin esikaupunkialueella vanhoillislestadiolaisessa suurperheessä.  Nyt hän on kiitetty esikoiskirjailija, Lue koko artikkeli…

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Kategoria(t): 1990-luku, 2000-luku, 2010-luku, arvot, avioliitto, äitiys, ban of birth control, ban of television, bans, concept of sin, Conservative Laestadianism, ehkäisykielto, elämäntapa, erehtymättömyys, eroaminen uskosta, etniset vanhoillislestadiolaiset, forbidden things, fundamentalismi, häpeä, identiteetti, identity, irrottautuminen yhteisöstä, Jumala, kaksinaismoralismi, kasvatus, kiellot, kontrollointi, kulttuurikiellot, laestadianism, lähihistoria, lestadiolaisuuden suunnat, lisääntyminen, maallikkosaarnaajat, manipulointi, miehen asema, mielenterveys, naisen asema, normit, norms, painostaminen, pelko, pelot, perhe, puhujat, Raamattu, Raamatun tulkinta, secession, spiritualiteetti, suurperhe, synnit, televisiokielto, yhteisö, yhteisöllisyys, ystävyys

A Stranger Among Them


Hanna Pylväinen is an author of a new debyte novel We sinners, a book that will be published in August 2012. The family portrait drawn from the author’s own life experience tells the story of a family of eleven in the American Midwest, bound together and torn apart by their Laestadian faith and its doctrines.

 

Pylväinen published in April an extract of the novel in The New York Times  where she writes about an eye-opening experience at her family’s church. Hanna Pylväinen is  a former Laestadian, obviously member of LCC. She doesn’t decribe herself by that word, it’s clear from the details within the text.

She made a deal with her parents when she left  the Laestadian congregation that she will return at Christmas and Easter to spend a time in the sermon. One Sunday she encounters a stranger, a black man, who makes her question her outsider status. …Read more…

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Kategoria(t): bans, eroaminen uskosta, forbidden things, häpeä, identiteetti, identity, in English, irrottautuminen yhteisöstä, normit, norms, nuoret, perhe, secession, seurakuntaoppi, suurperhe, vallankäyttö

We are happy! The Hannukselas and 105 grandchildren


Childless aunts especially spoiled the big family with treasures in Christmas, say The Hannukselas about their Christmas in the past when their children were still young and at home. ”We have fourteen children, and we are happy.” says Eira. ”Every child is received with joy, says her husband Matti. The Conservative Laestadians do not allow any birth control because they believe that it is wrong to prevent the God to create new human beings to be born and live on the earth. Any sort of birth control is taught to be a sin. However, ”we don’t have any rules”, says their daughter Sanna, mother for 14 children. Lue koko artikkeli…

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Lucia-kulkue: synnistä sallituksi 45 vuodessa


Pyhä Lucia (lat. Sancta Lucia, 283–304) on katolisen kirkon kanonisoima pyhimys ja ortodoksisen kirkon muistelema pyhä. Pyhimystarun mukaan Lucia oli nuori sisilialainen neito,  joka koki marttyyrikuoleman keisari Diocletianuksen hallituskauden lopulla noin vuonna 304.

Pyhää Luciaa on rukoiltu keskiajalla avuksi erityisesti kaulan kasvaimissa sekä sokeudessa ja silmätaudeissa. Hänestä on säilynyt muistumia myös suomalaisessa kansanperinteessä.

Lucian elämästä kerrotaan useita legendoja. Luciasta tuli sisilialaisen Syrakusan kaupungin suojelupyhimys. Sisiliasta hänen palvontansa levisi nopeasti koko Italiaan. Hänen nimensä otettiin mukaan katolisen kirkon kaanoniin eli messukaavaan jo 500-luvulla. Useita kirkkoja nimettiin Pyhän Lucian kunniaksi ja mm. Englannissa omistettiin kaksi kirkkoa hänelle jo ennen 700-lukua. Koska Lucian palvonta alkoi varhain ennen kristinuskon jakaantumista, hän kuuluu myös ortodoksien pyhimyksiin.

Ranskan kuninkaan Kaarle Suuren (742–814) ajan kalenterissa oli Luciaa tarkoittava merkintä ”Virgo Martyr” joulukuun 13. päivän kohdalla, sillä hänen uskottiin saaneen surmansa juuri tuona päivänä. Katolisen kirkon pyhimyskalenteriin Pyhän Lucian muistopäivä otettiin 1300-luvulla.

Pohjoismaihin Lucian palvontaperinteen arvellaan levinneen nykyisten Alankomaiden ja Belgian alueella sijainneesta Flanderista sekä Luoteis-Saksasta.

Pohjoismaissa tunnetaan joitakin kirjallisia todisteita Lucian palvonnasta jo keskiajalta. Suomessa Lucia, die beate Lucie, mainitaan asiakirjoissa ensimmäisen kerran vasta vuonna 1330. Sen jälkeen hänestä oli säännöllisesti merkintä kirkollisissa kalentereissa katolisena aikana. Ensimmäinen pohjoismainen tieto Lucian päivän vietosta on Ruotsin Länsi-Götanmaalta vuodelta 1746. Lucian päivän juhla neitoineen ja kulkueineen on vakiintunut erityisesti ruotsinkielisessä kulttuuripiirissä.

Pyhän Lucian päivä 13. joulukuuta osuu samaan ajankohtaan ennen kristinuskon tuloa vietetyn keskitalven valon juhlan kanssa. Esihistorian tutkijoiden mukaan pohjoismaissa on palvottu valoa ja Aurinkoa pronssikaudelta lähtien (1500 – 1000 eaa.). Lucian päivän vietossa on selvästi havaittavissa samoja piirteitä, ja myös pyhimyksen nimi Lucia viittaa valoon. Katolisessa kirkossa Luciaa rukoillaan sokeiden ja näkövammaisten omana pyhimyksenä.

Vanhoillislestadiolaisuudessa pidettiin Lucian päivän juhlimista syntinä vielä 1960-luvulla, joillakin seuduilla maata vielä 2000-luvullakin. Perusteluna esitettiin, että Lucia-perinne on katolisen kirkon pyhimyksen juhla.

Kuva: Ranuan kr. opiston Lucia-kulkue ja kuvaelma 13.12.2008. Kuva julkaistu opiston nettisivulla.)

Synnin puoliintumisaika SRK-lestadiolaisuudessa: filtterien säätöä ajassa

Onko ennen syntinä pidetty muuttunut sallituksi, nykyisin?

Päivämies-lehdessä kirjoitettiin  vuonna 1965 otsikolla ”Synnin suodattimia” ja todettiin:

”Emmekä sotkeudu muuta valkeutta etsimään, kuten täällä esim. ennen Vapahtajamme syntymäpäivää on totutettu viettämään epäjumalatar Lucian kunniaksi ”valon” juhlaa aivan jokaisessa yhteisössä, vieläpä lutherilaisen seurakunnan nimellä mainitussakin. Eikö olekin pirulla filtterit kunnossa?” (Päivämies nro 6, 3.2.1965.)

Lucia vie kadotukseen – Luciaa ei juhlita Jumalan lasten joukossa… 

”Lucian (vv. 283-304 eläneen katolisen kirkon pyhimyksen) päivää ei vietetä vieläkään Jumalan lasten joukossa. –  Jumalan sana ei kuulu loputtomasti. Se tulee ja menee, lain ja evankeliumin saarna vaikenevat aikanaan, mutta se ei tee syntiä luvalliseksi eikä pyhimysten palvontaa muuksi kuin kadotukseen vieväksi. ”(Nimim. Jani S. kirjoitti Mopin palstalla 15.12.2009.)

…paitsi Ranuan kristillisen opistossa

Ranuan kristillinen opisto 2009: Jouluaterian aluksi seurattiin opiston Lucia-kulkueen esitystä. (Kuva julkaistu Ranuan opiston nettisivulla.)

Erehtymätön seurakunta-äiti filtteröi juttuja 

”Ns. pappislinjan irtautuminen johti asenteiden tiukentumiseen sekä kirkkoa että yhteiskunnan maallistumista vastaan. Kun sisäinen kuohunta ja rajankäynti pappislinjalaisiiin alkoi olla voitettu 1962 – 1963, tykistöpatterit suunnattiin yhteiskunnallisen ja kulttuurisen murroksen torjuntaan. – –

Kulttuuria, kaunokirjalli-suutta, aikakauslehtiä arvioitiin kielteisesti lähes jokaisessa Päivämies-lehdessä 1960-luvun puolivälissä. Jopa Lucia-juhlan vietto nähtiin epäjumalanpalvontana. Lisäksi noina vuosina SRK ja sen julkaisut osallistuivat aktiivisesti poliittiseen taisteluun. Päätavoitteena oli vasemmiston torjunta. – – Tätä kiristymistä ja umpioitumista jatkui sitten aina 1980-luvun alkuun.” (Pölyttynyt 13.12.2010.)

Synniksi julistettu onkin sallittua – filtteri säädetään puhuja-asetukselle

Onko sitten myös yleisesti Päivämiehessä ja saarnoissa synniksi määritelty asia samaan aikaan joillekin uskovaisille sallittua ja sopivaa? Eikö synti olekaan syntiä samalla lailla, kaikille?

Nimimerkki x-vl oli tiedustellut vuonna 2007 Päivämiehen päätoimittajalta (myöhemmin  Hakomajassa  julkistamassaan kirjeessä) siitä, ovatko videoelokuvia ja viihdemusiikkia koskevat kiellot herätysliikkeessä muuttuneet niin, että ne eivät  enää sido puhujia.  Hän oli havainnut kahtalaista asennoitumista kieltoihin ja oli havainnoistaan päätellyt, että puhujilla saattoi olla suurempi vapaus päättää itse elokuvien katselusta ja musiikin kuuntelusta kuin riviuskovaisilla. Em. kirje on harvoja tapauksia, joissa Suomessa on nostettu julkisuuteen yksilöityjä havaintoja siitä, että syntikäsitysten velvoittavuus olisi lievempi arvostetussa asemassa olevien kohdalla riviuskovaisiin nähden. Myös Yhdysvalloissa on käyty lestadiolaisuuden nettipalstoilla keskustelua samasta kysymyksestä.

Virallisesti puhujat ovat pitäneet kiinni velvoitteesta olla kuuliainen  päätökselle, että elokuvien katselu ja musiikin harrastaminen ovat edelleen syntiä  (ks. esim. Aarno Hahon saarna).

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Ajattelemisen aihetta antoi Pelokas nimimerkki.

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Lisää aiheesta ja aiheen vierestä:

Aleksi:  Vaarallisin erehdys: uskomus erehtymättömyydestä

Arno Forsius: Pyhä Lucia

Dr. Propelli: Kapellimestariuden hinta: suku hylkäsi

Gepardi: Synti erottaa lestadiolaiset muista ihmisistä. Hakomaja 24.9.2010.

Aarno Haho:  Kuuliaisuus on tärkeämpi kuin omatunto

“Huumausaineesta” hyväksytyksi 30 vuodessa

Herpert: Armo vapauttaa elämään Kristuksessa

Lassi Hyvärinen: Lestadiolaisuuden vaikea kulttuurisuhde 

j-prevert: Kaffet tiedossa, jos ehkäisykanta muuttuu!

Jani S. : Lucian… Kirjoitus Synnin suodattimia-ketjussa. Mopin palsta 14.12.2009.

Lucia tuo valoa pimeyteen. Joulukirkko 18.11.2010.

Lucia-neito (Wikipedia)

Magdalena: Onko uskominen harkittua näyttelemistä?

Polliisi Karhunen: Uskovainen ja järki

Pyhä Lucia (Wikipedia)

Pölyttynyt: Kommenttia. Mopin palsta 13.12.2009.

Speedy: “Olinko hölmö -?”

SRK:n johto anoi rahoitusta vaalityöhön SYT ry:ltä 1965

SRK:n johtokunta teki hengelliseksi naamioitua puoluepoliittista työtä

SRK:n johtokunta:  Television hankinta ja konsertissa käyminen on synti

Ulla Puukko: Lestadiolaisuus on muuttumassa

Justiina Puupää: Muuttumaton oppi ja elämäntavat? 13.2.2014.

Vanhoillislestadiolaisuus opillisesti katolilaisuutta

Verstaalla pohtija: Kilvoittelu armon varassa

Verstaalla pohtija: Armoneuvot päälaellaan

x-vl: Kirjeeni SRK:lle -07.

Kiitokset. Nimim. Pölyttynyt, parhaat kiitokset arkistojen aarteista Mopin palstalla  14.12.2009.) (Toim.huom.)

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Leaving LLC made me who I am


After I left the Laestadian Lutheran Church (LLC), I came into feel and know that there was such a thing as a personal relationship with God, writes ”Finally Free” in her story at the former Laestadians’ forum Postlaestadianrevival. She describes her personal emotions and experiences which she had to met after leaving the church where she had been a member ever since her childhood and where her parents, family and friends still continues to stay.

It is interesting to notice how alike experiences people seem to meet in their leaving processes related to any branch of Laestadian revival movement, or any other fundamentalist and strict group. It is nearly unbelievable that even the details e.g. the inequality of social interplay and structures in the local congre-gation, experiences of shunning and being intimidated are precisely similar in Finland and in the US. Also aloof parent-child relationships and tendency to leave home very young in early adulthood in the Laestadian families are identified on both sides of the Atlantic.

Countless stories have demonstrated that leaving the Laestadian faith and congregation is a difficult and traumatic experience. It means often  that you have to rebuild yourself  and to recognise your inner self and identity totally again. Unfortunately, you will often get disowned from the family. In addition to the spiritual and mental difficulties some people have even lost also their job in case they worked for a company owned by Laestadians.

The exit is best done if you are well prepared (N.B. look at the steps!) and with a support system outside of the church, as here ”Finally Free” has told on her survival.  There have been many such exits where e.g. a young family or a single person has left the church, found connection with other ex-laestadians and got new and  safe direction with peer support in the life.

The LLC is one of the eight branches of Laestadian revival movement in America. It is a sister organisation of SRK (Suomen rauhanyhdistysten keskusyhdistys ry.) in Finland. They are, as in Finland called, Conservative Laestadian organisations with many dozens of  local congregations.

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I never fit in with the ”cool” kids… I tried very hard to fit in from about ages 12-15, but realized that I’d never fit in. I found a few friends that also didn’t fit in, and found friends from school that were not in the LLC. The first time I ”dropped out” was at age 16. My parents caught me sneaking out to a party, and I told them that I didn’t believe. Oh, and they also found my stash of ”bad” cd’s..but I managed to get them back .

A few months after that, I ”repented”, but only because it was too hard to live at home with my family as an ”unbeliever”. My parents didn’t trust me because of it, so I just faked it.

I knew that once I graduated high school and could move out, that I would leave the LLC behind for good.

It was the rules that got me. I didn’t understand why it was wrong to watch TV/movies, wear make up, listen to ”wordly” music..etc. I didn’t think about what they believed, but didn’t know any other way since that was all I’d ever been taught.

When I turned 18, I moved out from my parents, and in with a friend. It was hard. I didn’t have a very good relationship with my family, and even though I didn’t move far, we barely saw eachother, and didn’t talk much. It was so awkward whenever I was visiting my family. I partied alot, and tried not to think about anything to do with religion.

I met a wonderful man a few months after I moved out. About a year later, when we were planning our wedding, we started the marriage prep. course that was required by the minister marrying us. He was so kind, and accepting! Of course he didn’t like that we were living together, but he didn’t judge us for it. He treated us the same as he would treat anyone else.

It was very eye opening to hear him explain the different parts of the Bible we were studying. I had never heard it explained like that! That was when I realized that there is so much more out here than what the LLC teaches.

I didn’t know that there was such a thing as a personal relationship with God. When the minister talked about our personal walks with God, he was probably surprised when I said I had no idea what he was talking about!

Since then I have learned alot from reading posts on this site , and the extoots site , and also of reading the Bible. My husband and I have not found a church that we attend regularly, but I know that God has not forgotten about me just because I am not a Laestadian.

I used to wish that I would’ve been raised in a non-Laestadian family. I thought that it would have been so much easier. Now, I am happy for what I have been through. It made me who I am today, and leaving has made me a stronger person.

Now, my relationship with my parents and siblings is pretty good. (Having a child helped!) We visit there, and they even come to our house, and its not awkward anymore.

Author: ”Finally Free” (at the forum Postlaestadianrevival).

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Laestadian Lutheran Church, one of the 19 branches in the Laestadian revival movement

The Laestadian Lutheran Church is a Christian revival movement, one of the 19 Laestadian groups. There exist eight Laestadian branches nowadays in North America where this in Swedish Lapland born revival movement arrived with Finnish immigrants.  The total amount of all Laestadians  in North America is  approximately 29 000–32 000. The number of Laestadians worldwide is estimated to be between 144,000 and 219,000, most of them in Finland (80,000 – 110,000).

LLC is working in the US and Canada.  From 1973, after one of the many disagreements and conflicts among the Laestadians,  the organisation was name the Association of American Laestadian Congregations (AALC), before the association changed its name in 1994 to Laestadian Lutheran Church. As of 2009, the church has 29 member congregations in the United States and Canada, with highest concentrations of members in Minnesota, Washington, Arizona, Michigan in the United States and in Saskatchewan, Canada. LCC has 68 preachers, nearly all of them lay preachers.

The Church teaches that it is a sin to watch movies, listen to rhythmic music, dance, wear makeup, and partake in other activities that are considered worldly. Very crucial elements in the Laestadian dogmatics are norms regarding sexuality. The birth control, pre-marital sex and same-sex relationships are forbidden. The Laestadian revival movement is split between several different branches whose attitudes towards birth control, television, music, and other “worldly” issues vary to some extent.

In general, Laestadians attach a high value to family life and work, but are often less concerned about education. The movement is strongly dominated by men, and women are not allowed to preach nor having equal opportunities to become a supervisor in the congregation.  There are many bans or “sins” which are controlling especially the behavior and life of women. Women are idolised only as mothers. The argument to the ban of birth control is that children are regarded as a gift from God.

In the past time the Laestadian women married as very young, and some do still today. However, this is going to change because of the higher education of women (at least in Finland). Many laestadian women do not get married even after they turn 30 because they realise that they would have to get into the role of motherhood immediately. They don’t want to abandon their careers and yet, they don’t wish to leave the Church either, because their friends and family belong to it.

However, their chances to find a partner are usually gone because there in the congregation are not anymore left suitable men left. It is not allowed marrying outside of the Laestadian community (endogamy). As a result of this exclusive norm there are unusual big amount of women living as involuntary singles.

The important aspect about the community and beliefs that binds them together is that the Laestadian believer needs some other Laestadian one to forgive the sins. Based on their ”Doctrine of the Keys,” they believe that  (LLC-)Laestadians only  have the power to forgive sins and that without hearing the ”word of reconciliation” in the preaching of the LLC church or by way of personal absolution by some Laestadian person a sinner cannot be forgiven and saved. Most of the other Laestadian branches teach the exactly same belief.

In Northern Europe, the association’s sister organizations of LLC are the Conservative LaestadiansCentral Association of the Finnish Associations of Peace (Suomen rauhanyhdistysten keskusyhdistys) in Finland, the Sveriges fridsföreningarnas centralorganisation in Sweden, and the Estonian Lutheran Association of Peace (Eesti Luterlik Rahuühendus).

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Please be free to give your comments here or by e-mail: verkosto@luukku.com.

Read more:

I left the Conservative Laestadian movement (in ten years)

Laestadianism in America

Living as my true self – leaving the Conservative Laestadian one true faith’s community

Conservative Laestadians in Oulu

Laestadian-ism – political theology and civil religion: a blog of researchers focusing on Laestadianism, politics and society.

How to Leave the Old Apostolic Lutheran Church (Useful guidelines for everyone who consider to leave Conservative Laestadian community, too. The model has been a starting point in planning  those steps in Finnish.)

Comparing the One True Churches

Kuka ja mikä minä oikeasti olen? (Dr. Saara Tuomaala on identity etc., in Finnish)

Etniset vanhoillislestadiolaiset (The Ethnic Laestadians: a concept and definitions, in Finnish)

Sami Ojala:  Uuras Saarnivaara Pohjois-Amerikan lestadiolaisuuden historiankirjoittajana. Pro gradu -tutkielman esittely.

Valmisteilla väitöstutkimus Pohjois-Amerikan lestadiolaisuudesta 1880–1920-luvuilla. Päivämies 13.9.2014.

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Kategoria(t): ahdistus, avainten valta, avioliitto, ban of television, bans, concept of sin, Conservative Laestadianism, forbidden things, get rid of, identity, in English, secession, seurakuntaoppi, SRK ry., sukupuolijärjestelmä, syntien anteeksiantamus, syrjintä, syyllistäminen, tuomitseminen, uskon jättäminen, vallankäyttö

Living as my true self – leaving the Conservative Laestadian one true faith’s community


This posting discusses the experience of growing up in an extremely religious, closed community and later leaving to join the outside world. We’ll first discuss the Laestadian experience, and next draw attention to some resources from the experiences of some other groups.

This is intended to describe the ”typical” experience of leaving, but since we know there is no such thing as one typical experience. There are as many personal experiences and stories as individual persons. Please forgive us if our description doesn’t match your experience.

However, one of our foundings is that problems we meet in the process of leaving laestadian community are universal and known by many others who leave any religious compulsory community (or such one non-religious).  – Please be free to give your comment here, or by e-mail verkosto@luukku.com.

Be brave enough to decide

Often you have considered it seriously for years what to do, to stay or to leave. You have experienced that it’s also difficult to stay but be opposed to some the doctrine and rules. Maybe you have tried to leave – and you came back. This yo yo phenomenon is familiar for us indeed. It shows how full of self-contradictory emotions, difficult aspects and stressing feelings the situation is. The loss of community can be very painful.

Whenever we leave a religion we give up the benefits that are promised to us by the doctrine of the Laestadian faith. Most of us will sooner or later replace it with benefits from some other belief system – or give up the benefit entirely. I suppose that it is more unlikely to totally loose the belief in the existense of a god than still continue to trust in God’s protection in the individual’s life. However, I don’t have any evidence on this.

We get from our growing and childhood in the Conservative Laestadian community is a sense of belonging and comfort as we are amongst familiar people who understand and know us.

Leaving the faith creates anxiety and fear because we by definition give up this comfort and feeling to belong into the group. In addition to this, leaving a religion is doubly scary because we give up the benefits, the benefits that are promised to us by that particular doctrine: eternal salvation, eternal life after the dead…with our relatives and friends, as well.

Thus, it is not surprising that this is a difficult transition to make.

You are uncomfortable and insecure because you have 18 years of never learning how to pursue hobbies, other than those approved by the church. People wonder how you can be this old and never have gone to a movie or danced or applied mascara. It is strange, but wonderful, exiting and interesting at the same time.

Exclusion as a church doctrine is one detail which is hurting hard you personally and in a very concrete way. They will share their private greeting with each other: ”God’s Peace!” This greeting will not be shared with you anymore, if you do not attend their church. When you are together attending a family party they will say it to all of the community members present in the room, but not to you, if you are among them in the same room. Some of them would not even acknowledge your existence and avoid to be near you.

It happens, that one of your small cousins would say ” Gods Peace” to you, and then you will see that his mother pull him aside in front of you and tell him what he did wrong. Your name to all of your laestadian relatives is the unbeliever. Be prepared into becoming stigmatized and despiced.

Just the exclusion was one of the reasons why many of us left.

A life as my true self

Growing up in the Laestadian community, you feel a deep sense of warm belonging. (The sense of community and need for belonging  seems to be very hot and wanted in our life.) There are strict rules, and these rules clearly delineate how you should live your life. You know exactly what is good and what is bad and strive to make your life conform to the rules, at least publicly.

You are thaught that the outside world is filled with atheists and dead faith churches. These people are on a lower plane of value because they are not part of the community. They, even the most honourable of them, are going to hell. You feel as if the community is a refuge from a cold outside world, filled with ravening wolves. The people who make up the outside world are not diverse and not individuals; instead they are an undistinguishable mass of people ”in the world.”

There are many community mechanisms to keep you in the group.

The fear of those worldly wolves is drilled into your head from childhood. You fear losing your sense of community and belonging. You know that if you leave, you will be tarred as a rebellious sinner who wants to pursue just money, pleasure and easy, frivolous way of life instead of remain faithful to God and be satisfied with His grace.

Despite these incentives to remain, you decide to leave. Perhaps, the central tenets of the community no longer seem true. If the community is based on a lie, it becomes empty to you. Or maybe you are driven out from being constantly repressed in how you choose to dress, or your friend, a significant other.

Regardless of why you leave, the outside world appears to be a place where you can best live as your true self. Upon leaving, you feel the sudden loss of community.

When the community and its rules are gone

As a typical Laestadian, the community was your world. You likely didn’t take part in outside social groups such as sports or student groups, and your friends were all from the church. Now, the community is gone.

In addition to losing the community, you lose the rules. No longer do you have a clear roadmap that tells you how to be holy and how to live your life. You must create this roadmap on your own. To decide what to follow you should know yourself – but you probably have not yet met your real authentic self… it is still coming, you just have to find and create yourself from the beginning again.

You often feel resentment at having missed out on the many things you learn others did in their childhoods. You are suddenly eighteen or more years behind in learning the rules of how to behave in the wider world. You may find another church to attend or perhaps you just swear off religion entirely. You may like to concentrate yourself in everyday life and forget all the damned spiritual stories.

On the positive side, you learn the world has some decent people, and is not made up entirely of ravening wolves, as you were taught.

Nonetheless, the outside world often cannot understand your experience. Although they offer sympathy and express amazement when they hear your story, they cannot understand what you feel.

Some even go so far as to question why you ever left, thinking you simply succumbed to outside peer pressure to conform and denied your unique cultural heritage.

How they meet you…

Since you have left the Laestadian community, you will live your life like banished, judged in the ostracism related with your previous social life.

When you meet your family, you will meet cruelty and you try to understand  it in your mind: What did I do to deserve to be treated so poorly, all I wanted was to belong, to have a family, but it hurts… I was not wanted, it is a surprise to them that I still have morals, and that I’m not pregnant out of wedlock and that I’m not addicted to drugs. But don’t you believers know, I’m a equal person too… All I ever wanted was to belong to a family…

You have to create an attitude, a mindset and get practical tools how you can protect yourself to get hurted and wounded by your family and the closest people. You have to find ways to avoid hard emotional injuries and damages when you meet them.

Thousands of similar and even worse experiences…

The Internet has provided ways to share experiences and help for people who would like to leave their strict religious movement. There are available personal stories, discussion forums for peer-help groups and sources to support to survive in the leaving process. It is good to know that there are many others out there like you.We mention here some of the most useful sources. Please let us know when you know more.

How to Leave the Old Apostolic Lutheran Church

Learning to live free blog (OALC)

Hakomaja: information archive and discussion forum (in Finnish)

Steps to get rid of Conservative Laestadian movement: Askeleet irti SRK-Lestadiolaisuudesta (in Finnish).

Laestadians are not the only ones to go through the feelings of leaving. Another group to experience these feelings are e.g. people who left the strict, closed form of Judaism known as Hasidism .

Like in the Laestadian community, there is also a strong sense of community in the Hasid community, but there is also fighting for power and factionalism.

Also the groups of the Amish and Mennonnites has similar doctrines and rules as laestadians, some even crueler ones. The process of leaving tose communities is prevalent.

When the Amish leave, they often experience social ostracism as bad or even worse than what some former Laestadians experience; e.g. Saloma’s blog.

There are several books and personal stories such like Greater Inheritance and articles such as e.g. “Leaving the Amish Life Behind

Some try to help those left behind in abusive situations  or  help those now leaving .

Being authentic – You’ll survive and see the wide world

From the experiences of the former Hasid, Amish, or others, former Laestadians can realize their experiences are not unique and are often easier than the experiences of many from other similar groups. Former Laestadians are usually able to earn a living in the wider world and can eventually re-define themselves as successful and free, even if worldly.

By reading those experiences you will learn that while others may not have had identical experiences, many people (especially racial and sexual minorities) have also experienced being a ”stranger in a strange land.”

You find that your understanding and empathy for the dispossessed makes you a trusted friend and natural advocate.

Having found the courage to leave, very little can frighten you, least of all the social opprobrium of others. You are confident and able to connect easily with people regardless of socio-economic barriers. You have a high regard for reason, honesty, compassion, and inclusion, and attempt to model these values in your relationships. Your intellectual and spiritual curiosity never allows you to stagnate. You find life rich and exciting.

While sometimes you are nostalgic for the close-knit community you left, you find incomparable satisfaction in being authentic, and in being a citizen of the world.

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Authors:  the extraordinary fine text and background info by Rhyming Blue, modified  and completed by an ad hoc group of ex laestadians  – Our warmest thanks  to you, Rhyming Blue, and the beautiful blog Learning To Live Free!

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Please be free to give your comments here or by e-mail: verkosto@luukku.com.

Read more:

Anonymous:  I left the Conservative Laestadian movement

Edward Dutton: Conservative Laestadians in Oulu

Leanne Waldal: How does “sweetie” become shunned? (On ostracism after leaving Leastadian church; also interesting comments)

Anonymous: Vanhoillislestadiolaisuudesta irtaantumisen tunteet (Emotions within leaving Conservative Laestadianism, written by a young man who left the  community in 2009; in Finnish)

How to Leave the Old Apostolic Lutheran Church (Useful guidelines for people who consoder to leave Conservative Laestadian community, too. This model has been a starting point in planning  those steps in Finnish.)

Learning to live free

Comparing the One True Churches

Nuoret jättävät vanhoillislestadiolaisuuden – suuri syntyvyys ei kasvata jäsenmäärää (The young generation leaves Conservative Laestadianism – number of members doesn’t grow despite the high birth rate; in Finnish)

NYT-liitteessä: Miltä tuntuu luopua uskosta? (An interview in NYT Magazine: How did you feel to leave the religious community, in Finnish)

Amartya Sen: Identity and Violence (a review of The Guardian)

Syntinen ja sairas: Äiti tyttärelle: “Kun lapsi kieltää uskon, se on pahempi kuin lapsen kuolema.” (Mother to her daughter: ”When you leave it is worse than you were dead”, in Finnish)

Vanhoillislestadiolaisuus, amishit, hutteriitit ja mennoniitit (in Finnish)

Vanhoillislestadiolaisuus ja Jehovan todistajat: eniten hengellistä väkivaltaa (A research on religious violence, in Finnish)

The Laestadian Lutheran Church, the sister organisation of the Conservative Laestadian community  in Finland (SRK ry.)

Laestadianism

is a conservative Lutheran revival movement which was started in the middle of the 19th century and is named after the Swedish-Sami botanist and preacher Lars Levi Laestadius. The doctrine is characterised by Pietistic and Moravian influences. The term ”Laestadian” is used as an umbrella to refer to all churches and groups with a clear succession of belief from his teachings. Different groups follow his ideas in various degrees, and they have created more or less strict lifestyle rules  (what is considered a sin). The number of Laestadians worldwide is estimated to be between 144 000 and 219 000 (Wikipedia).

Laestadians are the largest revival movement in the Nordic countries. The biggest groups live in Finland with about 130 000 members. In Sweden they are thought to number 10,000 – mostly found in the north of the country around the Torne Valley. Laestadian movement has churches and congregations also in the US and Canada.

The deeply conservative faith broke into three branches – The Firstborn Laestadianism, Reawakening, and Conservative Laestadianism – in the beginning of the 20th century.  The groups are shattered again in the 20 Century, in Finland and other countries, and today  is counted 19 Laestadian groups but about 15 groups still active. Some Laestadian groups, e.g. the Conservative Laestadian congregation in Finland (SRK ry.) consider themselves the one, true Christian church, and preach that all other Christian churches (including other branches of the Laestadian tradition) are not true Christians.

Conservative Laestadianism in Finland is the biggest Laestadian group. It is also the biggest revival movement inside of the Church of Finland, with about 100 000 members.

In fact, it is quite strange that the Conservative Laestadian revival movement works inside of the Lutheran church, for it’s excluding attitude towards the other memebers of the national Christian church.  The priest who get their earnings at work for the curch of Finland would not say this openly in the sunday worship  in the church that the other members in the congragation are not true Christians to be saved. But afterwards they teach this when they preach in the Laestadians’s meetings at local ”Rauhanyhdistys” house.

Conservative Laestadians’ central management is The Central Committee of Conservative Laestadian Congregations (SRK ry.) leading 188 local “associations of peace”. The local congregations have over 34 000 members. It is not compulsary to formally join the association.

The community will grow rapidly in the next decades in case that people will stay in the Laestadian faith. Today there are over 50 000 children and young people (under 18 years) growing in the Conservative Laestadian families in Finland. As the movement is so big today, it has remarkable power and influence not only in the church but also at the political, public administrative, religional and cultural level in Finland, and also in the national media. Especially in the northern Finlad are towns where there everyone who’s anyone is a Laestadian. The future will show how the active young Conservative Laestadian’s generation will act and influence in the society and in the national church.

Laestadians are taught to consider a sin television, cinema and movies, dance, rhythmic music, performing arts such as concerts, theatre and opera,  also alcohol, hair dye, make-up, ear rings, birth control, premarital sex, divorce and homosexual relationships, and many other sins (list of sins in Finnish). Especially in the Conservative Laestadianism the believers have to follow those lifestyle rules, or ”providential advice”, or “congregation’s advice” as they modestly call them, decided by the preachers and the Central Committee of the SRK (those rules doesn’t include the Bible nor the Lutheran Catechism).

Laestadian asceticism is distinguished from many other fundamentalist Christians in that just few of the norms are officially ”proscribed” openly, banned by any official decision. Actually, in Finland justa bans of birth control, television, singing in choir , working as performing musician and concerts are results of the official decisions of the management of the Conservative Laestadian revival movement. (The Central Committee of Conservative Laestadian Congregations).

Rather, Laestadians do control eachothers themselves, they are on the look out for eachothers, and they employ a reinforcing system of social feedback to encourage abstention of the banned behaviour. The ultimate threat is ostracisism, i.e. segregation, exclusion from  fellowship in the common congregation. The board of the congregations maintains this social control  in keeping with the beliefs of the church.

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